Grey area in dating

One thing you know for sure, you do not want your girl to be making out with any other dudes.

Assume you managed to hook up with a girl, which I admit can be rather difficult when there are very few around. But with the advice provided by friends and a push in the right direction, every guy should be able to hook up with a girl that lives up to his standards. So if you have set your fears aside and asked a girl out, or just got lucky and got approached by one, you are ready to start dating.

The first couple of dates are usually a piece of cake. There are enough things to talk about, everything is new and exciting, but even more important there are no feelings involved yet. This phase lasts for a handful of dates after which things start to get more serious. It is the moment you need to have ‘the talk’: either both of you make a commitment and start a relationship of some sort, or you do not and things end right there. However, around the time ‘the talk’ is likely to place, a guy usually faces a lot of other challenges. For instance, what do you when during a random night out, another hot girl starts hitting on you? Most guys cannot resist the temptation and bite, often resulting in the end of their potential relationship. Arguing that you thought it was ok as you did not have ‘the talk’ yet, is often very ineffective at those moments.

Another dilemma that is part of the grey area is what to do when you meet a nice girl when you are about to leave for a four month internship abroad? It can be an ugly surprise when you come home ready to pick things up where you left them and it turns out meanwhile she has been sleeping around with half of Delft.

Question remains what to do when you hit this grey area in dating? The only thing I can think of is getting out of there ASAP: either confess your feelings to the girl or tell her she is not the right thing and look for a new one.